Single Child

Every story we write has a thing to say. A moral, or a lesson or just a new perspective of seeing things. But what if you have a story that is just a cliché in this world. Will you be all quiet and silent about it? or will you still talk about each detail it is covered up with?

Well, I chose the latter one. And here I am writing my story. Simple, but definitely the one, that will make an impact. A story that defines a time phase of my life.

Getting raised in a family where you are over-loved also has its own cons. Being able to get whatever you like: toys, dresses, gadgets and every fancy thing that others generally dream about, without much effort, might sound fun, isn’t it? It was, except for the one thing that made it all balanced. Not having a sibling to share with. Everything belonged to me, and I had to fight for nothing. Hence, that’s how I have become what I am today. Too particular about my things, not having the habit of sharing and just wanting a little more love and attention than anyone else would need. Well! this all comprises of what I have become. And I don’t call it an excuse. I am glad with me. But maybe society isn’t.

Everywhere I go and people get to know about me being a single child, the look on the faces would actually give all the answers to my statements, whose answers I didn’t even ask for. “Oh! you must be the pampered one.” or “So you sleep alone on the full bed?” or ” You must be too spoiled.” or “You won’t understand, you don’t have a sibling.” Well, I have smiled to all of these but trust me, not once it felt good. It was heart-breaking. Because living alone with your parents whose thoughts never are in sync with yours can actually make it feel all so lonely and suicidal: something the society won’t get it. You are judged way too much for every action of yours. Of course, you can’t talk about this to your family thus the problem starts.

So I decided to go on the most obvious path: looking for people outside the home. in the hope that maybe they understand me a bit more. It works! Always. I made a great number of friends who loved me and I fell in love with someone who understands me, because that was the whole deal it was about. Being able to talk to someone, being able to find someone of your age who understands the common problems. But what happens next isn’t pleasant. As you become more comfortable with someone, you try to shed every mask you are wearing, and you come out all so naked. That’s an ugly part.

Remember, I wanted just a little more than anyone out there, and maybe that little was far too much for everyone.

So how this problem should be tackled? I am still struggling to find its answers… If you have any, do comment in the comment section.

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  1. I, too, am a single child, as is my husband, and many of my dearest friends. We tend to gravitate toward each other. I never had the luxury of being pampered, though. Don’t get me wrong. I had nice things, etc, but as I grew older, I had to work for those things that I wanted. It taught me a sense of balance, made me realize the world is materialistic. I am not. Not having a sibling simply meant I was always in trouble, whether I did it or not!! I grew up with my aunt, who is only 10 years older than I am, so I guess you could say I had a sister. I think I’m rambling lol Anyway, you are who you want yourself to be. Sadly, single children will always be considered “spoiled”, even if we are not.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Hello Dorinda! Thank you for sharing your experience. It is always a good experience to know things from other’s perspective.

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      1. As one single to another, very happy to meet you!

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  2. Thanks for sharing this. We live in a complex world. Every situation in which you find yourself will have its up and down side. My prayer us for wisdom to manage situations as CV they come.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      True. But sharing the complexities help in making things better.

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      1. Exactly! I appreciate.

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  3. Some answers we tend to find and some we get by experience. It’s upto us happy how we see ourselves and how we find ourselves.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      But it will always be healthy to get see the dice from diffrent sides, ie seeing different perceptions of the people. Isnt it?

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      1. Ya that’s what exploring life is.

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      1. You are welcome

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      2. Am still that simple blogger.

        Just my kind of person. This is my own way. I try to read what motivate me. If am touched I make sure I comment on it.

        You are welcome to

        #PATRICKSTORIES
        Peace ✌and Love ❤

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      3. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response.

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  5. Oh am touch by this post. this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

    These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the write up. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with people .

    This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Your words gave me a push to write more and write better. Thank you so much for your kind comments.

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      1. You are welcome

        #PATRICKSTORIES
        Peace ✌and Love ❤

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      2. Am still that simple blogger.

        Just my kind of person. This is my own way. I try to read what motivate me. If am touched I make sure I comment on it.

        You are welcome to

        #PATRICKSTORIES
        Peace ✌and Love ❤

        Liked by 1 person

      3. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response.

        Such an awesome way of replying someone. Thanks. Again
        As always your posts are incredible and I enjoying reading every word down till the last line. I must say that you are probably one of the excellent bloggers on WordPress that write inspired
        Writing/post

        Also, I just posted:

        A VIEW OF FEMINISM: PLUMCOT

        Would love to know your views. Love to see your contributions on it. I’m always excited for your comment. 🙂

        You are welcome

        #PATRICKSTORIES
        Peace ✌and Love ❤

        Liked by 1 person

  6. Simon says:

    I wish I had some good ideas for you. I do find that most people judge on the first tiny thought to enter their mind.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Judgement often leads to a very different picture than what actually it is. And generally it isnt a good one.

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      1. Simon says:

        Exactly… Nothing good comes from it.

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  7. I absolutely LOVED being an only. Not spoiled at all and all my friends despised their siblings and were miserable growing up. Their feelings haven’t changed that much as older adults. I think being an only is the best thing in the world. I’m so grateful for being one.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Thank you for sharing your viewpoint. 🙂

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Thank you Lance! 🙂 You too have an amazing blog.

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  9. anne leueen says:

    I was a single child and my husband was as well. For him it was a different experience. For me I was a constant focus of attention but that was not always positive. Sometimes I wished I had siblings so that one of them could be getting in trouble! haha! We have two grown up children now. I was happy to have two. They are two years apart and are good friends now they are adults.

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Yeah! This happens…. situations are different for different people. !! But I am glad you took a decision of not letting your child be alone!! 🙂 God Bless you…

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  10. bluebrightly says:

    Just keep thinking, reading and writing…and living. There is no one answer of course, no simple fix. Problems get better, recede, come back again, etc. I wish you luck, and thanks for the follow. 🙂

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    1. Smile_More says:

      Thank you so much for all those wishes and luck you gave. I pray the same for you. 🙂

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  11. Thank you for following 😍

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